Seems like (and this is just me taking note of things happening around me) 2014 hasn’t been too kind on some of the people around me. Admittedly, happiness levels in my neck of the woods haven’t been high this year either. It took a lovely “home alone” Easter weekend for me to re-charge my batteries and to come to terms with the reality that is my life but it also inspired me to write a post to help everyone get fired up – to fall in love with your life again.
I read 2 posts by Lauren from Lipglossed Ninja where she commented on her lack of enthusiasm/motivation at that point. When I read these posts, I literally nodded in commiseration. When you notice lackluster feelings, you have to consider the possibility that you might be a little tired. Often, when we’re worn out, the “day to day” feels overwhelming or worse… MUNDANE. When this happens, it’s time for a little “me-time”. Whether you take a break from social media, your friends and family, go to a spa or a 3 day commitment hiatus, do whatever is needed.
Now that your energy levels are high, you need to evaluate your life. This requires you to be brutally honest with yourself. Write down everything good AND everything bad/not so good about your life. Try to keep it as simple as possible – rate important categories of your life, i.e. if your career is amazing, then rate it a 5 out of 5.
Now that you’ve established what is great in your life, pat yourself on the back. Great job! You’ve accomplished things in your life that you can be proud of. Nurture these things that are good in your life and be happy about it.
Now that you’ve established the problem areas in your life, it’s time to work at it. But not having a plan of action could leave you working harder and longer at it. Try to envision yourself 5 years in the future. Think of where you want to be and what you want to achieve. When you have a clear image of what you really want, it’s easier to plan your way to your destination.
- Goal Setting – how to
A person without goals is like a boat without an oar. Just like Lauren, many of us feel unmotivated in life. The reason behind this might not be that we’re tired, but maybe more about the fact that we don’t have anything to be motivated about. We can’t expect to be excited about nothing, which is why goal setting is so important. Now that you have a picture of where you want to be and what you want to achieve, it’s time to put the plan in action. This means setting little goals for yourself towards the big goal. Achieving little milestones should also be celebrated along the road to success. Remember in 1st Grade when your teacher had all the students’ names on a big poster and the better you did in your school work, the more stars you got behind your name? Our teacher gave us a lollipop for every fifth star we reached. It made the task of completing our star column much less daunting and more fun too. When you’ve clinched that deal with a new client or when you’ve lost another kilo, goal weight, CELEBRATE!
- Coping with the mundane
Life happens once, make it count. I’m not saying you should YOLO your money or your dignity away, but for heaven’s sake woman! Live your life! Eet daai chocolate! What’s the use of falling in love with your life when you’re not enjoying it? This means, do the things that you love doing. Find “good for you”, fun things to do during the week. Whether it’s a new type of fitness class or a fun short course. Don’t limit yourself.
You’re probably thinking “Yeah right”, but as it turns out, Glamour Magazine agrees with me. In their latest issue, an article – “Have Goals? Hit ‘em in 2014”, Elisabeth Egan (editor) suggests that to minimize morning stress, make sure to essentially prepare for your morning. This means:
- Wake up early enough for you to get a good start on the day
- Put your car keys on a hook where it’s easy to find
- Make sure that your purse is in your handbag and also, (and this is just something I do) pop a R50 note in one of those “hidden compartments” in your handbag for the day that you end up forgetting to put your purse in your handbag
- Get into the habit of taking your clothes out the night before
- ALWAYS make sure the coffee pot is full.
When your day is off to a bad start, usually the rest of your day feels crappy. Cut out unnecessary stress out of your life and get more organized. Keep a planner, use calendar function on your phone, file important documents and when you do the laundry, make sure you match your socks up instead of having to fumble through the abyss of mismatched socks. Cutting out unnecessary stress might not be easy in the beginning, but the magic is this: when you see how well it works, you’ll want to keep it up.
Falling back in love with your life is like a delicate flower – it needs just the right amount of order and the right surroundings for it to flourish and grow. When you reach a goal remember to celebrate and let it motivate you to do even better.
What gets you out of a phunk?