“Before Facebook, you could just forget people existed… it was great”
I saw this funny quote today and thought “Yup, those were the days” and then I thought… but wait… why don’t I just clean up my Facebook friends list? It’s not like I really have 308 friends, so why do I still keep them on there? The answer is: Even though Facebook friendship is not a real thing, Facebook unfriending is… and people get extremely defensive, upset and downright nasty when they realise the unfriending happened.
Now you’re just somebody that I used to know
Not too long ago, I was ostracized from a group of people (you know – the real kind) and not long after, I was unfriended and even blocked from various platforms (It hurt, but you move on and make better friends). Nevertheless (and in spite of my best efforts), every now and again, photos of them soil my timeline and I’m left to deal with my feelings again.
Some of you might remember my issues with the wedding I was in at the beginning of the year (I won’t elaborate too much). Long story short, I’ve toned down the friendship with the bride, stopped competing for place of “best friend” and said “The C****-show is over”. Since then, die-drol-in-die-drinkwater-co-maid-of-honour sent me a friend request… which is still pending and no… I won’t accept it.
Still, the vigor of their “BFF-ness” gets rubbed into my face daily on Facebook while I have to grit my teeth at the few and far between emails from her saying “I feel like our friendship has taken a dip since the wedding”. This is code for “Bitch, why don’t kiss my feet anymore?”
My perfect life
The mother of twins, with a rocking body, seemingly blissful and carefree life features really high on my “envy” list. She is solely responsible for me initiating #ProjectFeelGood. The picture she paints for the world on social media is that she’s completely happy, but I couldn’t believe that it’s all fun and games for her. I did a little digging (stalking) and found out that she got divorced. Granted – she’s with a hunky dude now and has some super gorgeous friends who parade in their bikinis together, but I just realised that every person has their own burden to bare.
Still, I don’t want to have to “stalk” into people’s dark secrets to lessen my envy of them, so I avoid the “I got a new designer bag”, “look at my six-pack” and “look at me at this super VIP event” pics.
They know they’re hot and they know everyone else knows their hot, but for some reason they still need validation. But the 42 likes 30 comments and 4 shares isn’t enough. They keep posting the bikini pics and the “got mah hair did” pics. Animal abusers
I’m not saying to turn a blind eye to the horrible things that happen all around us, but when I’m scrolling down my timeline and “BAM! Brutal, Savage content in your face!” I can’t deal.
I’ve spent countless nights trying to envision myself saving animals before they get hurt by things masquerading as humans.
This is really just the tip of the iceberg, but I’m sure I’m not the only one who avoids Facebook. What are your reasons and if you can relate to any of the above, I would LOVE hear from you.