How to: Get psyched for 2015 – reach your goals

Goals

I know we’re only in September but before you know it, we’ll be in December, planning our holiday shopping and going on holiday, by which time you won’t have any time to think about the next year.

Do you want to go through another year of unfulfilled New Year’s Resolutions, or do you want to take 2015 by the horns? I choose horns, please!

Start now – here’s how

Think of all the things happening in your life right now and where you want to be in the next 5 years. Now set your goals.

To give you an example:

(Assessment) I’m currently just a blogger, (goal) but in 5 years, I want to be an editor for an online or print magazine.

Now that you’ve assessed and set a goal, you need to PLAN your way to success.

Example: How am I going to get there? (Plan) I need to take a course and sharpen my skills.

Now that you have a plan, do your research and take action so that by the 1st of January 2015, all you have to do is show up.

Example: I found a comprehensive online course that suits my pocket and I’ve enrolled and paid my fees.

I firmly believe that the reason why so many New Year’s resolutions end in tears and disappointment is because they’re made too late. Failing to plan is planning to fail – don’t set yourself up for failure.

Here’s a list of the 10 commonly broken New Year’s Resolutions

  1. Lose weight and get fit
  2. Quit Smoking
  3. Learn a new skill
  4. Eat Healthier and Diet
  5. Get out of debt and save money
  6. Spend more time with family
  7. Travel to new Places
  8. Be less stressed
  9. Volunteer
  10. Drink less

There are great solutions to all of these – take action – make it a reality! If you want to get out of debt, sign up for debt counselling. If you want to spend more time with family, set out time and let them know when it’s going to happen.

All your goals can be achieved if you set your mind to it, plan and take action. Do it NOW before the New Year’s blues set in and you’re frustrated before you even made your goals.

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OK, non-bloggers. There’s this thing that’s very convenient for us bloggers, called “scheduled posts”. And if I’m being honest, I’ve got posts lined up, done and scheduled for the next 2 weeks or so (this is how it’s been for a while now and it’s HARD WORK). I headed over to my blog to check what’s happening and I saw that I had passed the 20 000 hits mark!

I just want to thank you for reading and I hope you enjoy the upcoming content! chalk HPG

Mind your manners… please and thank you

The other day, I was asked to bind a bunch of documents for one of the gentlemen in my office. He isn’t my boss and he certainly doesn’t control or have any bearing on my income at all, so I didn’t HAVE to do it. It’s also something that I consider to be beneath me – I know my value – I’m not being cocky. But here’s the thing: He asked me so politely, that I wanted to bind the documents with gold rings and ask him if he’d like some fries with his bound documents.

He later boasted about me and how great I was and you know what, I would even make him coffee if he asked me to.

On the other side of the spectrum, I get asked (maybe told is a better word) to do things every day by many people – things beneath me and challenging to me (as I’m sure all of you get told to do as well). They might not be nearly as “demeaning” as binding a bunch of documents but because of the way the instruction was conveyed, we feel disrespected and we don’t feel like doing our best. A couple of weeks ago I posted about the ugly thumb sister which ties in perfectly here.

My mother taught me to say “Please” and “Thank you” and to ask POLITELY for the things you need from others – Mom… thank you… I used to think everyone knows about manners… apparently not. please and thank you

Whether you are the CEO of a fortune 500 company speaking to the teller at the supermarket, don’t be a douche. Be polite! A word to the wise, after you’ve barked out “Just bring me the coffee” and you’ve left the room, you’re the butt of witnesses’ jokes… not the person you think you embarrassed. I’ve seen this happening first hand… many times.

You’re probably working for or with people who don’t know about manners, or maybe you deal with people like that – this is not your fault and it’s not your job to teach them either. I’ve had to bite my tongue a couple of times instead of blurting out sarcastically “Please?”… instead I remind myself of this little thing called “Karma”.

Manners and demeanour are much more important than what you wear or how you look. I’d much rather go far beyond the call of duty when I’m asked politely to do something than do the bare minimum for someone who barked out an order.

Joel Osteen said something that is very significant to this. He said “Treat EVERYONE like they’re the gatekeeper of your very bright future”. This means, the cleaner that works in your office? She could know somebody that could change your future for the better – be kind to her! Be kind to the bum on the street and the waiter that makes your coffee, because the bum could be a witness in a crime committed against you and the waiter makes your coffee… nuff said.

And if you’re the one dealing with a mannerexic (manner anorexic) just know this – you are not defined by how people treat you. You are awesome! So smile and know that this is not the end of your story…you are awesome

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I usually spend my Sundays winding down and mentally preparing myself for the week ahead. Besides the self-therapy, I like to soak in a bath full of my favourite stuff and my favourite movie. Today, however, was one of the busiest Sundays I’ve had in a while. I was about to feel sorry for myself when I remembered a little quote:

Monday inspirationI finished my (extra) work and thought “Yes I can! And I’ll work as hard as I have to in order to get what I want!” Just remember this when you feel like giving up on whatever challenge you’re facing today: if it was easyHave a great week yall!

Special mentions, life and a few dark but light things

Disclaimer: Content is of a personal nature and contain some religious views and is kind of long…

Last night, I swear, I saw my life flash before my eyes. I was out with a couple of girls, one of which got really drunk and the rest of us had to wangle a way to get her home safely. Meanwhile, I wasn’t the soberest person either (I do not condone drunk driving at all… wait for it… I’m getting to the point), but there I was, driving her car while her head bopped more out of control than a bobble-head doll. obama - -bobbleheadWe dropped her off, fetched my car and I drove back home. Later that night I woke up – heart racing and I realised how blessed I was to be sleeping in my bed and not in a jail cell… or worse… a hospital bed. With this thought, the last year and a couple of months (the best, the worst, the most stressful, scariest and funnest times) of my life, culminated with an undeniable reassurance from a higher power that “You are exactly where you’re supposed to be”. quote (2)I thought about the people I met in the last year and those I’ve known for longer and if it hadn’t been for people like Heather, Lisa-Jade, Minki (my friend), Elizabeth (my friend) or the quotes often posted by Laura Jane from Whimsey is Forever and Charlene (which always seemed to come at just the right time… thanks ladies) I don’t know where I would have been. 5julyA friend in need…

In the darkest times I could turn to these people and know that they would have the solution to my problem or at worst, some words of encouragement. I’ve ripped myself to pieces for making one of the worst decisions of my life, but I constantly rehearse the lines in an email that Minki once sent me “It’s about climbing on this new ladder that you’ve set up for yourself. The only thing that’ll bring you to the top is time and hard work, not necessarily the choices you make along the way”. And when I’m really convinced something really bad is going to happen to me…

“Look forward, because if you feel you’re at rock bottom there is nowhere else to go but up”.

The last part stuck with me. It stuck, because I know this to be true. Somewhere along the way we lose our drive – it happens to us all. We become content with where we are – and then we aimlessly wander along going about our day to day like zombies. I remembered the Leana I was when I finished school – I was full of vigor, excitement and zeal to learn (but I’ll admit to being very scared too). If you feel like you can take on the world, you will and you will conquer it too!

It’s not a quick fix

Even as I’m writing this, I can hear a little voice setting in and telling me how I’m going to fail, what a bad person I am and that I should just give up. It’s a constant battlefield, which is why I reassure myself by listening to Joel Osteen’s sermons on YouTube. I listen to them over and over until the words really sink in. godI can’t believe that we’re alone and that we live and we die – end of story. People need religion or an anti-religion for that matter. Don’t we all just want to be happy, live meaningful lives and be good people?

Whatever it is that you need – life coaching/religion/motivational talks/psychology – find it and use it daily because you need to constantly be reassured that you’re going to be OK.

I touched on a few points here – vary vaguely too. I did this because I want people to easily relate and apply to their own situation. I hope this is the beginning of a happier US!

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